With the New Year finally here and plenty of new goals put in place, it’s time for some real transparency… I didn’t reach most of my 2016 goals. Hell I cant say that I even remember most of them. It all starts with great intentions; I have all these big dreams and expectations, I make goals, I write them out. Next come the plans. I spend hours planning but thats where it ends. Zero execution!
At first I thought that I sucked at the follow through because I lacked organization. Which in all fairness is true. Coupled with an occasional case of procrastination (read constant), I thought I had figured out the problem. But with time I realized I was facing something much deeper.
No matter how great my goals were, how thorough the plan, or how ambitious my spirit I just wouldn’t get it done. After another year of that, a little soul searching, and a lot of conversations ( with myself, my tribe, and God) I realized the number one reason I wasn’t getting it done was self doubt.
Sometimes the fear of success is even more crippling than the fear of failure. I realized that I never follow through because what if it goes well? What If my dreams come true and I life my best fucking life ever?! It scared me shitless!
What helped me realize this is the moment I was tired feeling trapped in my comfort. Tried of not doing the work. Tired of not living the life that I WANT. Even if I don’t know what the hell that is yet. I know this though: Im ready to figure out exactly what that is and 2017 is the time. Not just for me but for all of us!
So if you find your self skipping on your goals, I want to share a few things to help you realize whats holding you back and get past the hurdles. Most of what plagues us is beyond the surface and these are the things that helped me better prepare to smash my goals this year:
Get All The Way Real With Yourself
You can cant find the truth within if you cant manage to be real with yourself. Once you can be honest with yourself about your job, your family, your relationship; only then can you get real about creating the life you want. Plus after that
Let Go Of All Those Things You Thought You Already Did
Recently I attended an event to support my good friend. She recently discovered her passion for heart healing and hosting a healing circle, where everyone shares things they want to get rid of in safe environment. I was nervous about sharing, but when I did I was so relieved. Especially when one woman in the group expressed that I should let go of the hurt that I was holding on to. This was something I hadn’t acknowledged until that moment. Some of the hurt we thought we’d healed we actually just hid. Hid away to secretly only to pop up when you least need it. So spend sometime pulling those things out of hiding and truly set them free. Leaving room for only for moving forward.
Give Yourself As Much Love As Possible
Self love is the best love! And whenever you feel the most loved you have the power to set your trajectory in the direction to get shit done! When you love yourself, you believe in yourself, your dreams, and your goals. From there, you can pay it forward.
Knowing what I know now, 2017 will be the year to finally get right and get ahead. I hope you dolls will be here with me!
Did you meet all of your goals in 2016? How will 2017 be different for you?